You can’t cry your way to happiness.
You can’t eat your way to weight loss.
You can’t sleep yourself into energy.
You can’t spend your way to wealth.
You can’t hold a grudge and have forgiveness.
You can’t find a partner by hiding inside.
You can’t get there from here.
If you want a change in your life, you have to change something.
Start small. Starting with small steps eventually creates a path to get you to where you want to be; repeated small steps along the same route construct a clearing for us to continue towards our destination.
I started on my trail to happiness by ‘unlovinging’ my previous partner 1% a day. That’s all I did; every night before I went to sleep, I told myself when I woke up, I would love him 1% less. (I wasn’t sure how it worked or what that really meant, but that wasn’t the point.)
It wasn’t long before I stopped crying everyday and I started to notice I wasn’t missing him as much anymore. And just like that, one day I didn’t love him anymore. It wasn’t a dramatic flash when I first realized I didn’t love him anymore; it was more like a ‘did I leave the iron on?’ moment.
If someone would have said, “Just stop loving him”, that wouldn’t have worked; I couldn’t get there from where I was living. You can’t just stop loving someone you love.
Like attracts like. Small steps will attract additional small steps, permitting you to take the bigger steps towards where you want to be.
If you have an unhappy aspect in your life, start with small changes, even as small as 1% and watch them add up to 100%, without much additional effort on your part. But the caveat is you must act, you must have the action, no one can do it for you.
Because you can get to there from here, eventually.