Everyday, everyone lives in the past.
You live in the past every waking moment.
I live in the past every living moment.
The past surrounds you. Everything around you is the evidence of the past. Of your past. Every. Little. Thing. So stop telling me to quit living in the past. Even you can’t stop living in the past.
“Wait,” but you plead, “I live in the present, in the now. Like Oprah told me.”
You don’t. You live in the past. Living in the now is a huge New Age lie. It’s impossible to live in the now.
The now is now. Now. Now. No, now. Now. Now. Urgh! Now…
Living in the now is unobtainable. You can live for this moment and in this moment, but you don’t live in the now.
You live in the past. Even tomorrow you will be living in the past.
Every decision and choice you have made in your past, you live with. Now. Now. Now.
Everything you are happy with, you made that choice in the past. Everything you are not so happy with, you also made that choice in the past.
Look around you; your body is based on the choices you made yesterday, last week, last month, last year. Like what you see? Great! Keep it up. Don’t like what you see? If your body is not the way you would prefer, it’s only because of the choices you have made in the past. Change your tomorrow’s past for your body, today. Start some type of improvement today and the evidence of your better choices in the past will come to life tomorrow.
A hangover is the best analogy I can think of for this. That moment you woke up, you did nothing wrong. You were sleeping, how could you have done something wrong? Living, or rather sleeping, in the now shouldn’t have given you a headache and upset stomach. Yet you wake up with a hangover because of your past choice to drink alcohol.
You are living in the now with a hangover from drinking in your past. If you could live in the now, wouldn’t you just erase your hangover from your mind by living with a bright, shiny morning? Impossible. Your day starts out living in your past.
Happy in your relationship? Great! Keep it up. Not so happy or not in a relationship? What choices did you make in the past that have you were you are today? Did you realize you should have left years ago? Are you single but not mingling? Have you let things slide?
Career? Yep, all past decisions. Did you drop out of school? Did you pass up that promotion? Did you work hard at a degree that was viable? Did you work those extra hours that are paying off now? Did you enter a questionable business model? Did you follow your heart?
Finances? Did you ring up your credit cards? Overextend on your mortgage? Gamble? Overspend? Start a savings account? Diligent with a budget? Financially secure? Your finances are directly attributed to your past choices and decisions, good or bad.
The money in your bank or not in your bank is one of the clearest material indication of your choices, hands down. (Even a sudden lotto winning is proof you bought a ticket, a past decision.)
Every waking hour is a reminder of your past. Every breathing moment is living in your past. Consequences of your choices, good or bad. Without exception.
What you choose this moment, this now, will be birthed into the next moment, next day, next week, next month, next year.
So you don’t live in the now, you choose in the now.
You don’t live in the moment, you choose in the moment.
But you always live in the past.